• What is Bullying?

     

     

    Bullying is physical aggression, name-calling, intimidation, exclusion, or other behavior that is purposefully hurting another person repeatedly over a period of time.  Bullying is often carried out by someone who has more physical, social and/or emotional strength against someone who has less power, making it hard or impossible for victims to defend themselves.

     

    Ways to help your child handle bullying

     

    ·        Get the facts

    o   Stay calm and be objective

    -  You may not have the whole story

    o   Assure your child that the problem will be addressed

    o   Gather as many details as possible

    -  Where, when, who was involved

    o   Keep records of when your child is bullied.  This will help to show that there is a pattern and that it is not just a one time event.

     

    ·        Communicate with the school

    o   Encourage your child to speak to his/her teacher or other school personnel verbally or in writing.

    o   If your child is not comfortable speaking up, you can contact your child’s teacher, principal, IST or school counselor

    o   Continue to maintain open communication with school personnel

     

    ·        Encourage your child to use strategies that they have learned

    o   Tell the bully to stop (politely but firmly) 

    o   Walk away

    o   Know that it is not your fault

    o   Tell adults at home and at school

    o   Stay with trusted friends

    o   Hang out with people who will let you be you

    o   Don’t be a bully yourself

     

    ·        What to do if your child may be bullying

    o   Talk clearly about behaviors, expectations and consequences

    o   Avoid physical punishments

    o   Reduce the amount of TV and video game violence

    o   Determine whether or not your child is being mistreated

    -  Sometimes bullying can be a reaction to hurt, fearful or angry emotions

     
    Efforts to reduce and eliminate bullying need to be shared by parents, school staff and students. 

     

    Additional resources:

    www.stopbullyingnow.com                           www.stopcyberbullying.org

    www.bullying.org                                             www.no-bully.com

    www.cyberbullying.org                                  www.opheliaproject.org